Type A or Type B? Understanding Your Submissive Identity in BDSM

Femdom & Chastity Mistress
2 min readOct 16, 2024

Understanding your submissive identity can significantly enhance your BDSM experience. Within the BDSM community, there are generally two distinct types of submissives that can clarify your preferences and guide your journey.

Type A: The Aligned Submissive
Type A submissives actively seek dominants who share their specific kinks and practices. This alignment fosters a harmonious dynamic, allowing both parties to indulge in fantasies that genuinely excite them. When a submissive finds a domme who resonates with their unique fetishes, the potential for deeply fulfilling experiences increases, as both participants are engaged in shared interests. This type of submissive values compatibility and often prioritizes finding someone who understands and appreciates their desires. Their focus on mutual engagement can lead to richer, more emotionally resonant scenes.

Type B: The Service-Oriented Submissive
In contrast, Type B submissives center their experience around the pleasure and satisfaction of their dominant. They exhibit a willingness to explore a broader array of practices, as long as their limits are respected. Type B submissives thrive on the joy of serving, finding fulfillment in the act of devotion itself. They often embrace the unexpected, placing trust in their domme to guide them through new territories and challenges. For them, the relationship is built on mutual respect and service, where the primary motivation lies in the happiness of their dominant rather than shared interests.

Finding Your Fit
Ultimately, identifying whether you align more with Type A or Type B can significantly impact your journey within the BDSM community. Take time to reflect on your motivations, desires, and boundaries. Are you seeking a partner for shared adventures, or do you find joy in serving and exploring your dominant’s desires? Understanding your submissive type will enhance your ability to communicate your needs effectively and deepen your connection with your domme. Embracing your submissive identity can lead to a more fulfilling and authentic BDSM experience, allowing you to navigate your desires with clarity and confidence.

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