Shanghai Erotica: The Canadian Expat Submissive Surprised Me With His Unusual Request
I have met nearly 600 expat men in Shanghai for BDSM sessions over the years, each bringing their unique desires, fantasies, and quirks to the experience. Recently, during a session, a submissive surprised me with an unusual request: he asked if he could give me a kiss on the face.
This caught me off guard — not because I’m unaccustomed to unconventional questions, but because it was the first time a submissive had expressed such an intimate and tender desire during a scene. In my line of work, most requests lean toward power dynamics, fetishes, and physical sensations. A simple kiss, laden with such vulnerability and emotional undertones, was refreshingly unexpected.
It made me pause and reflect on the nature of submission. Some submissives crave pain, others seek humiliation, and some yearn for validation or connection. This request felt less like an act of defiance or an attempt to break the dynamic, and more like a yearning to bridge the gap between dominance and affection, if only for a fleeting moment.
Such moments remind me that BDSM is as much about emotional exploration as it is about physical play. Each session becomes a journey of trust and mutual understanding, and even after meeting nearly 600 men, I find myself continuously learning about the depths of human desire.
I’m curious — what would you have done in my place? Would you have allowed the kiss, drawn a firm line, or turned it into a playful test of obedience? Moments like these are what make this journey so fascinating, as no two submissives — or sessions — are ever the same.
