Best Job In Shanghai: Western Expats Hire Me To Be Their Boss

Living and working as an expat in Shanghai can be both exciting and daunting. Western expats often find themselves navigating demanding professional roles, cultural differences, and the pressures of maintaining their image of authority and control. Yet, in private, some of them long for a chance to step out of that dominant role and experience what it feels like to surrender power.

This is where I come in. As Mistress Alessandra, a professional dominatrix in Shanghai, I’ve had the unique experience of being “hired” by these high-powered expats to embody the role of their ultimate boss — not in the corporate sense, but in a deeply personal and thrilling BDSM dynamic.

Why Do They Want a Boss?

The concept of power dynamics is central to BDSM. Many of the expats who approach me are men who hold senior positions in their professional lives — CEOs, managers, or team leaders. They’re accustomed to making decisions, giving orders, and controlling outcomes. But behind closed doors, they crave a break from this constant responsibility.

By hiring me to take on the role of their boss, they can explore the flip side of power: submission. They want someone else to be in charge, to dominate them, and to hold them accountable in ways they’ve never experienced.

The Scenario: From Office to Obedience

One of the most popular scenarios I craft for these expats is a workplace-themed role-play, where I take on the role of their commanding boss. From the moment they walk through the door, they step into a fantasy that feels both familiar and entirely new.

• The Job Interview: Some sessions start with an “interview,” where they must answer humiliating or playful questions designed to establish their submissive role.
• Performance Reviews: Others involve mock evaluations of their “performance,” complete with punishments for failing to meet my exacting standards.
• Office Tasks: I might assign them demeaning tasks to perform under my supervision, emphasizing their lack of power and control.

These scenarios combine the thrill of role-play with the intensity of BDSM, creating an experience that is equal parts playful and cathartic.

The Appeal of Submission

For many of these expats, hiring me as their “boss” fulfills a deep psychological need. In their everyday lives, they’re under constant pressure to succeed, maintain their status, and project authority. Submitting to a dominatrix allows them to let go of that burden, even if only for a few hours.

The experience is more than just escapism — it’s a way for them to reconnect with their vulnerabilities, challenge their own boundaries, and experience the liberation that comes from surrendering control.

My Approach

When I take on the role of a boss for these expats, I approach it with creativity and precision. Each session is tailored to their individual desires and limits. Some want a strict, no-nonsense boss who enforces rules with an iron hand. Others prefer a more playful dynamic, where humor and humiliation go hand in hand.

Regardless of the tone, I ensure that every session is immersive, respectful, and transformative. My goal is to create a safe space where they can explore their fantasies without judgment.

A Unique Offering in Shanghai

Shanghai is a city of contrasts, where East meets West and tradition collides with modernity. It’s the perfect backdrop for exploring unconventional desires. For Western expats, hiring a dominatrix like me to play their boss is more than just a fantasy — it’s a way to experience a side of themselves that their public lives often don’t allow.

As Mistress Alessandra, I offer these men a chance to step out of their high-pressure roles and embrace the freedom of submission. It’s an experience they never forget and one that many return to time and again.